Some sad news. But also good news. I am running a 3-day flash sale on my signature
10-Week Mindset Makeover course, starting today. It ends this Friday. The reason is a tad bittersweet for me:
this is the last time I will be launching the
program.
I created the education in 2012, and since then, thousands of women have completed it, and experienced huge mindset shifts. BUT, I have a ton of new tricks up my sleeve for 2016, so I am retiring the original 10-Week Mindset Makeover after this week. If you’ve never enrolled, this is your chance. Or, if you have and loved it, please forward this offer to a friend who you think might benefit from it.
Now, real quick, today I want to talk—what else?—your mindset.
Last week, I posted on the JillFit Facebook page
a #selfie after 2 weeks in Europe and called it “maintenance mode”—mostly because my routine remained fairly stable while I was traveling. I managed to get a workout 2 out of every 3 days and my eating was of course, #moderation365. Mostly protein, veggies, dietary fats that satiate, like cheese and nuts, plus bites here and there of things that looked delicious and a few customary glasses of wine.
NDB.
This experience in Europe was quite different than the 9 weeks I spent there last Spring on the #tetatrek and getting into trouble with my girlfriends in Paris. See, though I was walking a ton, I only managed a handful of weight workouts then. I pretty much just made a conscious decision not to stress out about it while there, and if I’m being honest, I just plainly was not motivated to do it.
So I adjusted my eating, walked a lot and didn’t
stress (a practice that has admittedly taken me years to master).
But as a result, I came back to the states softer, less cut and pretty flat in the muscle department. Of course, that’s only normal considering I didn’t lift!
Again, NBD. I didn’t beat myself up or hate how I looked. In fact, I enjoyed myself tremendously and had no regrets.
But here’s one insight that I would have NEVER been able to practice years
ago, and that is: NOTHING IS EVER IRREVERSIBLE.
Back when I was obsessed with my eating, doing hours of cardio a day and stressing myself out trying to “lean out” constantly, I would have taken anything that wasn’t ideal and made it mean that EVERYTHING IS BAD AND I AM DOOMED TO FAIL.
I used to take my mess-ups and run with them: This must mean I am weak. This is just further proof that I’ll never get it right! See, I knew I couldn’t
do it. Ugh, this is getting harder and harder! WHY IS THIS SO HARD FOR ME WHEN IT’S SO EASY FOR EVERYONE ELSE? What is wrong with me???
One single poor week of eating or streak of no exercise turned into “everything sucks and I suck, too.”
In other words, I played the victim big-time.
I might not have blamed other people or circumstances, but I certainly blamed and berated myself. And guess what? That’s still
posturing for victimhood and martyrdom!
And it would have been the easiest thing to do that last Spring when I came home after not lifting for 9 weeks. I could have seen it like, “Ugh I set myself back so far! LOOK at how much ground I lost. I’ll never get it back.”
Or I could have (as I did) just viewed it as another part of my journey. This is perspective.
Because here’s the thing: when we think things
are irreversible, and when we think that at some point we are “too far gone,” or believe that we’ve reach a point of no returns, we fall into a defeatist mindset trap. We feel helpless.
And gee, isn’t that, ironically, the last thing we want when we are trying to feel in our power and make a change?
And it’s also bullshit.
I don't make a few weeks of less training or a single hungry week or a few days with a
couple more treats mean I'm "off the wagon" and am doomed to fail the rest of my life.
I trust myself completely to change something anytime and create anything I want anytime. If I want something to be different, I take one small step in that direction. I've learned to feel accomplished with even the smallest shows of action.
Because truly, every little bit does count.
I am never on or off. I'm never
good or bad. I'm never all or nothing. I'm never black or white. Over the last 4 years, I've learned to live in the gray 100% of the time with my nutrition and training, and I've let "good enough" be good enough.
If I'm mindful and I'm patient and if I take the long-view, nothing is impossible and nothing feels urgent or scary. I always have a say in what happens next. I have time to figure it all out and get it all done.
The insight here
is trust. And loosing up on the urgency, scarcity and anxiety.
I know, easier said than done, ha! But the good news is that like anything, becoming a more trusting person just takes practice—learning to trust in yourself, learning to trust in the journey. And recognizing that you can do anything you want, any time. WHY NOT.
Placing rigid rules and constraints on what’s possible for you is a choice.
It’s a choice
that limits your thinking, and thus limits your potential. And just as easily, we can make a different choice. Sure, trust at first is scary. But on the other side of those brief moments of discomfort is ease, freedom and flow.
Your body, your mindset, your outcomes, your success, your business, your happiness. All pliable. All figure-out-able. All ongoing journeys where you are the #1 player.
This, is a
mindset.
If you’re interested in taking things deeper, be sure to grab a spot in the
10-Week Mindset Makeover course before Friday, and before it’s retired! Five educational modules covering everything from perfectionism and self-trust, to teaching people how to treat you and quitting the yo-yo cycle, to ridding yourself of negative motivators like
guilt and shame, and giving up your need to play the victim.
You in?
Let me know if you have any questions, and cheers to learning
self-trust!
Xo,
Jill