C’mon! YOU HAVE TO LAUGH AT THIS STUFF! HAHAHAHAHA.
Sure, sometimes it’s worth having a discussion or giving a comment some more credence, but sometimes you just need to dismiss it as not relevant and not worth your mental
energy.
Even if receiving a comment that feels a little offensive or you take it personally, because … do I need to eat a sandwich? … remember that always second-guessing ourselves is a deterrent to action.
Sure, taking feedback can be useful and if someone is interested in a genuine discussion, then I’m game. But when we are constantly feeling crippled by the potential negative judgment by others, we end up not doing what we say we
really want to.
And that’s not okay.
The above is a small example, but as JillFit has grown, I have gotten plenty of people ridiculing how I do things and what I write or how I live, and that’s fine. Of course it’s never feels awesome, but I now know that it’s part of the process and each time it happens, I have an opportunity to reinforce TO MYSELF that I’m worthy, that what I do has value and I am just as capable as the next
person.
This is a mindset shift!
And in my experience, as much as I hate to admit it, for me, it kind of starts with adopting a bit of a “better than” attitude. Not all the time, and not forever, but at least at the beginning when you are still trying to fake it till you make it a little and get some wins under your belt.
Whether you actually write out, “Lol” or not, the idea is the same—your conviction is everything.
And laughing off comments by people who don’t know your stuff nearly as well as you do is incredibly powerful, FOR YOU. It sends a message to your higher self that you are on the path, that you’re in your creative power and that no one can stand in your way.
You might have to fake it at first, but hey, over time, you’ll find yourself less and less threatened by others’ comments, and you might even look forward to the challenge. As weird as it sounds, I like
when people question the concept of moderation or of drinking a glass of wine now and then, because I will go toe-to-toe with anyone over why I believe it works. I have seen the nutrition battle from all sides, and I am 100% confident in my approach. And I love talking about it! Why wouldn't I? :)
The second way to use the LOL is not in the “better than” way like above, but to actually enjoy yourself and enjoy this process.
One
of my good friends, Rog Law says that laughter is the key to everything. Finding a way to make fun of yourself, laugh at your own antics and screw-ups and realize that if you are not having fun, then why are you doing it?
Hard work is different than misery. And if you are not keeping things light when you are working on the thing you say you love the most, they just stop now.
At its core, following your dreams should be fun. It should be
enjoyable. It should be something that feeds you, not takes away from you. Stress is normal, but if you find yourself never feeling happy, then baby, it’s time to take things back to the drawing board.
Remember, online business and blogging is just words on the computer. It’s not scary. It’s not serious. And I think we can all afford to those words a little less personally.
Because really: loooooololol.
There will always
be a small part of me who’s still that little kid who took second place, questioning, “Am I doing this right?” but now, after years of practice in owning my power and coming into myself, I am a lot more comfortable being out in front regardless of what people are thinking, saying or doing.
Which brings me to new challenges and new opportunities ...
The Best of You Coaching Club for 2016 is already sold out, but as promised I wanted to give
you an opportunity to access the
11-month education to follow on your own if you are still interested in learning how to start that blog, the online business and come fully into your power. It’s an education-only option, and it’s available for enrollment until December 11
th.
And of course, as always, let me know what you
think!
Xo,
Jill