Every day since June 1^st, I’ve been sharing a daily post with the hashtag #JuicyJourney to social media. The month of June, for me, has been all about mindset.

Here’s a little secret: I kind of hate the word ‘mindset.’

Just like I hate the words moderation and mindfulness and intuitive eating, etc. I obviously love these concepts—they are the things that actually work—but the words feel so overused that they’ve lost their edge.

People hear ‘mindset’ and it’s totally glossed over—like, yeah, yeah, gotta have the right mindset, blah, blah.

So instead of just throwing the word around, I am committed to defining it so clearly that it doesn’t feel like this amorphous thing with nothing real to grab on to.

Mindset is simple: it’s THE THING that bridges the gap between knowing something and doing something.

Your mindset is your ability to effectively implement the things you already know to do, and to feel good while doing them. Your mindset is your trust bank account.

Recently I was asked on a podcast about feelings of guilt and shame when in the past I’d overate or binged. Before doing mindset work, I had ZERO tools to understand or navigate these feelings. Before mindset work, it was: overeat = I’m bad and weak and undisciplined. Skip a workout = I’m not good enough, I’m not perfect and that’s a problem.

After mindset work, I started being able to have awareness of the ways I was feeling—guilt, shame, self-disgust, etc.—and then actually process them. Ask questions like, is that really true? Does eating some cookies actually make me a bad person? Am I somehow defective if I can’t eat this meal plan exactly as it’s laid out? Am I truly not good enough if I have excessive fat on my body?

And the answers to those questions helped me navigate the negative emotions and maybe choose something different—something that would help, not hinder, my progress.

That’s it.

And so, #JuicyJourney has been about sharing some of my juiciest mindset insights.

And hey, it has not been the most pleasant, ha! I’ve been sharing about my marriage, my relationships with my parents, the things I used to feel that embarrassed the heck out of me, and the scariest—looking my own BS in the face and asking where I can improve? Not because I am not good enough right now, but because I want to be more at peace. I want to be open, aware, emotionally available, not defensive or avoidant or self-righteous.

I don’t want to position other people as “wrong” and I get to be right. I don’t want to position myself as the victim in scenarios. I don’t want to be a martyr. I don’t want to blame and complain.

And I don’t want to be using up valuable emotional bandwidth with bullshit and gossip and negative self-talk and self-doubts and anxiety over every single thing I do or say, or someone else does or say.

THAT is the power of doing mindset work. Hopefully you have been following along. You can see all the posts on Instagram, just follow the #JuicyJourney hashtag.

But today I want to share with you one of my recent posts, and kind of surprisingly, I received a TON of response and traction to this post. So much so, that I wanted to also share it here, below.

The concept of regret. Seems a lot of us struggle with coming to terms with our past experiences. Maybe we judge ourselves for making the “wrong” choice or “wasting time” (that’s my trigger) or feeling like we “could have done things better.”

But regret is nothing but a trap. It holds zero utility. And it’s 100% a choice, which sometimes we forget. And one that, when we choose it, keeps us mired in the past, in feelings of not-good-enough and anxiety over future decisions.

“I had moments after my marriage separation where I thought, were the last 10 years just one huge waste of time?? It's easy to think that if something doesn't "pan out" like you think it's supposed to that somehow it was the wrong choice. And based on the hundreds of women who tell me they feel anxiety over making "the wrong choice," it's easy to see how these thoughts can paralyze us.

But is there ever a wrong choice if you learn something from it? Is there ever a wrong choice if you had an experience you otherwise wouldn't have had? Is it ever a wrong choice when in reality, ever knowing what "the right choice" is, is actually impossible?

And most importantly, harping on and berating ourselves by even categorizing something as "wrong" in the first place (which is a choice btw) is pure misery. Fuck that. Don't do that👋🏼😂

Own your choices. Do your best. Take responsibility. Learn the lessons. And then try again. But never, ever ever regret. Because at one point it was exactly what you wanted. No issues👌🏼#JuicyJourney #Day26 #OwnershipAF”