Hopefully by now you’ve joined my FREE closed Facebook community, the #RadicalResponsibility Project!

If not, you can do that right here.

I’ll be sharing most of my content in that group now, considering visibility on Facebook pages is practically zero, and I’ve had a lot of people tell me they’re just not seeing my content anymore, sooooo … go join!

In the group last week, I added a poll and asked what types of emails y’all like the most. Long emails, like I usually do? Or a couple emails a week but short (can read in 1 minute or less), or a short email with a link to a longer piece?

And far away, you guys asked for shorter, more frequent emails.

I’ll still write long ones every once and a while (can’t help myself), but I’m gonna try out something new—shorter, more frequent emails just to give you a quick tip, story or strategy. Sound good?

So a little Monday message for you today … on radical responsibility.

One of my mentors told me the secret to her success was, “taking responsibility for every circumstance she found herself in—regardless of who put her there.”

This was a tough pill for me to swallow, because as we know, sometimes a struggletown situation is actually not our fault, but the actions of someone else has forced our hand and now we’re left to deal with the aftermath.

But here’s the thing: taking responsibility for our attitude and actions moving forward is NOT the same as letting someone off the hook.

There are always consequences and we don’t ever have to condone someone else’s behavior, BUT at some point, if we want to learn, grow and surmount the shitty stuff, we do have to figure out a way to move on, and move up.

That’s where radical responsibility comes in. It’s going, “This isn’t my fault, but it is my responsibility to figure out.”

Life isn’t always going to be fair (we learned this as a child, yea?) but we always have a say in what happens next.

And forgiving someone (or yourself!) or not, is your prerogative, but acceptance is not the same as condoning. And acceptance is the first step to creating a solid foundation upon which we can level up and move on.

And likewise, “moving on” doesn’t mean we don’t acknowledge and honor our struggles. We don’t just forget about the pain or push it down. We don’t just pretend there’s not hurt. We honor all of that fully, feeling all the feels, allowing ourselves to have the full emotional experience.

And then, at some point, there comes a time that the processing turns into action. Honor the struggle and then figure out what’s next.

Wishing you an amazing week, and chances are good that I’ll send you a little inspiration and insight later this week, too! As always, open to your feedback and would love to know what you prefer to see in your inbox.

Join the convo in the #RadicalResponsibility group, and I’ll see you there!

Xo,

Jill