5 lessons I learned from my mentor (+ deadline tonight for Best of You Coaching)
Published: Wed, 12/11/13
Hi ,
I hired my first business coach in 2011. And it was scary. Sooooo scary. I was nervous about spending the money and
what if I didn't get results? What if it didn't work? What if I ended up broke
and even worse off after? Besides, the $10,000 investment (!) was not chump change by a long shot.
But, the reality was that I was at a major crossroads in
both my business and personal life. I felt like I was not reaching my
potential, caught up in the daily grind, never getting a leg up and running
around like a chicken with my head cut off 24/7. The thought that I'd still be doing the grind 10 years later terrified me.
Since then, I've spent thousands more on education, coaching, conferences and
mentorship. And it's always paid off. But taking that first leap was by far the
hardest.
5 Lessons I Learned from My Mentor:
1) Take action. Take massive action.
The bottom line is that you will never feel 100% ready. You
will never have every duck lined up in the row. You will never not have some doubts. And
you will certainly have no guarantees of what will happen. And so the choice
that remains is to EITHER stay scared and small, OR take action and adjust along
the way. We can never know exactly what's going to happen, and chances are that you'll mess up. But when you have the attitude that not only do I trust MYSELF to
handle anything that comes up, but I actually look forward to my struggles
because they allow me to grow, get better and attain greater success, then how
can you not take action. Just jump and figure it out along the way. Self-trust
beats self-doubt any day.
2) Your mindset drives everything (abundance versus
lack).
This was huge for me. As a former full-time trainer and
group fitness instructor, I was constantly running around, chasing money, doing
"the fitness hustle" and leaving no time for myself or the things I wanted to
accomplish for my future. I was in a lack mindset: "I need to just take on more
clients and let them pay me whatever because I just need the money!" My mentor
taught me to value my time and expertise to the point that I could trust in my
services. She taught me an abundance mindset. When we believe that there's
enough happiness, success and money out there, we have no trouble manifesting
exactly that. Mindset is practiced, it doesn't happen overnight. But it's worth
pouring your time into mastering a success mindset because when you do, it
drives all decisions. Choices are effortless because you always default to the ones that will bring you long-term success and personal fulfillment.
3) You only need to be one step ahead of the people
you're helping.
The impact of this statement was enormous for me. I was
always scared I "wasn't lean enough" or "in show shape" and what if I'm speaking
at a conference and someone calls me fat or challenges me on "the science?"
Many of my career decisions before 2011 were driven by self-doubt and fear. I thought
I needed more certifications, more education, more knowledge. I never trusted
in my expertise, experience and ability to get results, even though I had been in the fitness industry for 10+ years. But the key is this: don't you, at some
point, have enough credentials?? At some point, don't you have to say, "I have
something to contribute. I can make an impact in people's lives." Because
everyone has something to teach. So go do that.
4) Practice high personal value.
In all aspects of your life. Practicing high personal value
means valuing yourself--your time, your expertise, your clout, your experience,
your ability to make a difference, your relationships and what you deserve in
life. And if you're waiting for affirmation from others, you're going to be
waiting a looooong time. Because only you can assume your own success. No one
is going to tell you you're an expert. You have to just say it. And own it. And
then act like you have something to contribute. Like Jade says, "You're no one
until you decide you're someone." And it's only a single choice away :)
5) Surround yourself with like-minded people and also people who support you and force you to strive.
When I looked for a mentor, I wanted to find someone who I
could relate to, but that was doing what I wanted to be doing, but doing it way
better. Jim Rohn says you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. I believe this. So take a look at your support team. Do people
"get" you? Or do they constantly tell you, "That'll never work, you can't do
that." Or do they support you in whatever your dreams are? Are they 'yes'
people, or Negative Nancys? This point in particular is the beauty of a
coaching group and having an mentor. Surrounding yourself with 'hell yes!'
people. Those who not only think you can do it, but believe you will and
deserve to.
Today is the final day to apply for my 2014 Best of You Coaching Club
Mentorship. All applications are due by tonight at midnight. I will be
choosing 13 women to work with up-close-and-personal in the realms of mindset,
body and business in this elite 11-month mentorship.
==========> All the details are here
Click on the link above to find out if it's for you (or if it's not) and how to apply. Begins January 15th. I'll be
sending out acceptances by next Wednesday December 18th.
Jill